No.

“No” is a complete sentence.

In ASL (American Sign Language) ”no” is the firm motion of bringing your pointer and middle fingers together with your thumb. It reminds me of the sharp snap of a snake head and jaw. We all grow up knowing not to fuck with snakes.

“No” is the boundary you set for yourself.

“No” is a two letter word that holds the power to change the course of your entire life. Think back on the times when you have said “yes” to an activity, request, loan, assignment, etc. that you really wanted to say “no”. Who was the focus of your reply? Oftentimes it is not what is conducive or in the best interest of ourselves that determines how we reply; it is for the benefit of others because society tries to ingrain in us a mentality that values productivity benefitting the whole (white patriarchy) over one’s personal well-being. This is why you see so many mediocre, privileged white men living the “American dream” while others, often in marginalized communities, feel forced to work for less than they deserve until their wicks burn out. Why do you think guilt is often tied to the use of vacation or PTO (paid time off)? The idea of not doing “something” or not being productive is counter to what society wants us wired to believe should remain constant.

“No” takes courage. It may infuriate many and result in the loss of relationships, jobs, opportunities, etc., but what is the loss of crumbs when you make room for an entire fresh loaf?

“No” is a leap of faith and I say, ‘cheers to the fall’.